At Lovella Bridal, we believe every bride’s journey is uniquely her own and that includes who you choose to bring along for one of the most special parts of wedding planning: finding your dream wedding dress. When brides schedule an appointment to shop for their wedding dress at our store, we are often asked who they should bring with them for wedding dress shopping. Wedding dress shopping is such an exciting and often emotional part of the wedding planning process. Many brides want to bring all of their loved ones or their full bridal entourage to share in the monumental experience, while others may prefer to wedding dress shop alone.
One question we are hearing more and more often is, “Should I bring my fiancé wedding dress shopping with me?” It’s a great question and one that’s definitely worth unpacking. Wedding dress shopping is a unique and personal experience for each bride so who you bring to your bridal appointment is ultimately going to be different for every bride and will be an individual choice based on comfort and preference. From our experience styling brides, there is no hard and fast rule of who to bring with you wedding dress shopping. Let's discuss the do's and don'ts to consider if you are thinking about bringing your fiance with you to shop for your wedding dress.
Video: Should Your Fiance Go Wedding Dress Shopping With You?
Before a bride begins wedding dress shopping, the question of who to bring to your appointment always comes up. Will you bring your full bridal party? Just a few close friends? Maybe just your mom will join you to shop for your wedding dress. If you are ready to begin wedding dress shopping and are wondering who to bring with you to your bridal appointment, you won't want to miss our latest wedding dress shopping advice video discussing if you should bring your fiance with you to wedding dress shop.
Wedding Dress Traditions
When thinking about bringing a fiance wedding dress shopping, we have to start with the elephant in the room. There’s a long-standing superstition that says it’s bad luck for your fiancé to see your wedding dress before the big day. Many brides love the idea of that surprise moment at the altar, where your fiancé sees you for the very first time in the dress. And we completely understand why, it’s romantic, emotional, and unforgettable. It’s a build-up to a moment that’s just for the two of you, and in some cases, that element of surprise adds magic to the wedding day.
In fact, we at Lovella Bridal have what we like to call "the bride’s secret.” What if your dress was a surprise not only for your fiancé, but for everyone in attendance at your wedding? There’s something truly special about stepping out in your gown for the first time on your wedding day, revealing your full bridal look to everyone you love in one unforgettable moment.
Breaking Tradition
Here’s the thing about traditions, they are lovely, but they’re not rules. And we’re strong believers that your wedding experience should be personalized and reflect your relationship, your values, and your unique dynamic. Some wedding traditions just don't speak to many of our modern couples anymore.
We’ve had many brides bring their fiancés along to their appointments here at Lovella Bridal, and it’s not unusual at all. Whether it’s due to cultural customs, emotional closeness, or simply because your fiancé is your go-to opinion-giver, there’s nothing “wrong” with including them in the process. In fact, having your fiancé present can sometimes help you make decisions more confidently. After all, many of us ask our partners for their opinions on outfits for a dinner date or a night out, so why wouldn’t you want their input on the most important outfit of all?
Bring Them For Their Opinions
If you are someone who may take comfort in having their fiance by their side for a big decision like choosing a wedding dress, then go for it! But they should be with you at your bridal appointment, shopping with you in person so they see the full journey from dress to dress that you try on. Why? Because without context, a simple photo you send them doesn’t do justice to the process. A fiancé seeing a single image of a dress doesn’t know the fit, feel, or the other options you tried before landing on that one. They might judge it based on how it looks on a model or how it's photographed, neither of which tells the full story.
Blind opinions can lead to second-guessing and, as we’ve seen time and time again, analysis paralysis. And who needs that during wedding planning? So if their input matters to you, and they’re open to it, bring them along to your appointment. It will give them full context and let them be part of the magic.
What If They Are Paying?
Another reason some fiancés join the wedding dress shopping experience is because they’re contributing financially. When that’s the case, it can actually be helpful for them to see the dresses in person and understand what their investment is going toward. A wedding gown isn’t just a purchase, it’s an emotional and visual experience, and sometimes seeing it up close helps them appreciate the value in a way numbers alone can’t. Seeing a wedding dress in person allows you to feel the fabric and really take in the intricate details that all add up to the total cost of a bridal dress. You really need to see the dresses in person to understand why wedding dresses cost what they do.
That said, if you’d rather keep your look a surprise and your fiancé is still footing the bill, just remind them: the dress is worth every penny the moment they see you walking down the aisle.
Final Thoughts
So should you bring your fiance wedding dress shopping with you? Ultimately, it’s up to you. There are no hard rules here and that is what we love about bridal fashion and the entire wedding dress shopping experience! So don’t overthink it. Follow your instincts. Do what feels right for you and your relationship. Keep things simple, stress-free, and filled with joy. Your wedding dress journey should be as beautiful and personal as your love story.
More Helpful Wedding Dress Shopping Advice
We hope you have found this advice helpful when it comes to knowing if you should bring your fiance wedding dress shopping with you. For even more helpful advice when it comes to shopping for your dream wedding dress, be sure to check out our past posts:
- Who Should You Bring Wedding Dress Shopping?
- Is It Bad To Go Wedding Dress Shopping Alone?
- The Bride's Secret to Setting Boundaries When Wedding Dress Shopping
About Lovella
If you're shopping for your perfect wedding dress, come visit us at Lovella Bridal in Glendale, CA. We carry wedding dresses in all sizes and styles, including plus-size bridal gowns and a full selection of veils and accessories. Lovella Bridal is the premier, luxury bridal wedding dress shopping boutique located in Los Angeles, California. Lovella features couture, feminine, modern and chic bridal gowns in all sizes from the best wedding dress designers. Schedule an appointment to find the wedding dress of your dreams at Lovella Bridal. We can't wait to help you!
About Wedding Fashion Expert
Our wedding dress shopping tips and advice are from Nayri, Lovella's own, in-house wedding fashion expert. Nayri is truly the expert when it comes to bridal fashion and wedding style. As the Wedding Fashion Expert, Nayri is the top bridal fashion stylist and the best-selling author of the book "I'm Getting Married And I Have Nothing To Wear," the ultimate guide to helping brides find their wedding day style and their perfect wedding dress. You can subscribe to her YouTube channel or listen to her podcast for more helpful and practical advice on wedding dress shopping.
